Oh, this one hits hard. I'm so sorry that the burden of responsibility fell on you and that you've had to live with it all, too, but I'm also so grateful that we all get to benefit from reading your words about it and how you've processed it. This stuff is never easy and often stays behind closed doors, which really sucks as it means you feel extra alone when you're trying to navigate it - like no one else in the history of the world has had to go through what you've gone through, even though that isn't at all true.
I had to have some big convos on this last trip back home about my mum's ongoing care, and it was very apparent that my dad and I are in very different places. I feel like I'm advocating for what she would want, and he's advocating for what he would want, but we're all just muddling our way through together. Love shows up in such different ways. I'm sure he'd just have been glad you were there, trying to decide what was best for him and keeping everyone else in the loop as best you could. Sending you massive hugs x
Thanks for sharing Cassie. These are such every day issues aren't they, with each of us trying to do the best thing but often not pulling in the same direction.
You've been great at holding things together for your mum and the rest of the family by giving them a different perspective.
Our own guilt and story often gets in the way, which i hope your dad can make his peace with. I know things are shifting in a positive way though so keep trusting your instinct and speaking up.
At least we can say we were true to our values in the end. Sending much much love and hugs xxx
Oh, this one hits hard. I'm so sorry that the burden of responsibility fell on you and that you've had to live with it all, too, but I'm also so grateful that we all get to benefit from reading your words about it and how you've processed it. This stuff is never easy and often stays behind closed doors, which really sucks as it means you feel extra alone when you're trying to navigate it - like no one else in the history of the world has had to go through what you've gone through, even though that isn't at all true.
I had to have some big convos on this last trip back home about my mum's ongoing care, and it was very apparent that my dad and I are in very different places. I feel like I'm advocating for what she would want, and he's advocating for what he would want, but we're all just muddling our way through together. Love shows up in such different ways. I'm sure he'd just have been glad you were there, trying to decide what was best for him and keeping everyone else in the loop as best you could. Sending you massive hugs x
Thanks for sharing Cassie. These are such every day issues aren't they, with each of us trying to do the best thing but often not pulling in the same direction.
You've been great at holding things together for your mum and the rest of the family by giving them a different perspective.
Our own guilt and story often gets in the way, which i hope your dad can make his peace with. I know things are shifting in a positive way though so keep trusting your instinct and speaking up.
At least we can say we were true to our values in the end. Sending much much love and hugs xxx