I've been there, too — I had to put away a parent who wasn't good for me. And a brother. It wasn't easy; I've been told that family is important, so I felt guilty. Yes, sure. So, I asked myself: if they behave like this, does that mean I'm not important or not part of the family? The answer was that their words didn't match the reality. Once I understood that in my body and emotions as well as my head, I was able to move on slowly, one step at a time. It was painful at first, but ultimately made me feel free. Grieving is definitely a process, especially when you're grieving for people who are still alive. It feels like living worlds apart.
Nathalie, I so appreciate your openness and honesty sharing how you've had to put a parent and brother away. It's not easy at all, and that guilt sits heavy doesn't it? And there are constant reminders I find. Well done for stepping away and listening to the conflict in their words, actions and reality. Sending lots of hugs your way. xx
Profound as always. I love how you can put words to the ache 💜
Thanks Cassie. I thought this one might resonate for you. Sending lots of hugs x
I've been there, too — I had to put away a parent who wasn't good for me. And a brother. It wasn't easy; I've been told that family is important, so I felt guilty. Yes, sure. So, I asked myself: if they behave like this, does that mean I'm not important or not part of the family? The answer was that their words didn't match the reality. Once I understood that in my body and emotions as well as my head, I was able to move on slowly, one step at a time. It was painful at first, but ultimately made me feel free. Grieving is definitely a process, especially when you're grieving for people who are still alive. It feels like living worlds apart.
Nathalie, I so appreciate your openness and honesty sharing how you've had to put a parent and brother away. It's not easy at all, and that guilt sits heavy doesn't it? And there are constant reminders I find. Well done for stepping away and listening to the conflict in their words, actions and reality. Sending lots of hugs your way. xx
Thanks Sabrina. Yes it's tough and liberating at the same time. With time.